Commitments and Choices Matter
Decisions (particularly those that lead to commitments and agreements) are often made from emotion. Salespeople rely on your tendency to make decisions with your feelings as opposed to your head. Emotion-based decisions will usually lead to over-commitment. Another thing that impacts our commitments is that most of us believe that we can combine everything we have to do, along with what we want to do and then add in the things that others expect us to do and fit it all into the limited amount of time and energy we have in a day. This anchor point helps you develop a process for using wisdom in decisions which will lead you to make commitments and enter agreements with “eyes wide open,” counting all the costs of what you are saying yes to do. It also equips you to be an advice seeker, not so that others are making decisions for you, but to accurately see all the pieces and factors that connect to your commitments.
Keeping Your Agreements
It used to be hard to break agreements. There were less legal loopholes to get out of agreements and a ton more social pressure to do what you agreed to do. In our current society, we almost expect people to fake an illness, make an excuse or just not show up. We are not, however, any better off for failing to follow through with our commitments. You don’t feel better about yourself and people learn to mistrust your words and motives. There are only two ways to go when it comes to the agreements we have made with other people. One is to keep it… do the thing you have agreed to do. The other is to renegotiate. Go back to the person with whom you made the agreement, admit that you can’t do what you agreed to do and ask to extend the time frame or adjust the actions of the agreement. This anchor point leads you through the skills of making and keeping agreements along with the vital skill of renegotiation when you have said yes to something you are just unable to do.
Grit & Resilience
You really don’t know what people mean when they say that it is much easier to turn a moving car until you experience the failure of your car’s power steering. Movement is not only good for your body, it is good for your soul. The Law of Action states that actions create habits – which lead to success. You must perform the actions necessary to achieve what you are setting out to do. Unless you take specific actions that agree with your dreams, there will be absolutely no results for you to enjoy.
When you take ACTION, from the smallest thing like writing a To-Do list in the morning, you set into motion other effects that change your immediate future, and if you follow up day after day it can become a habit and the results will be huge. Effort=Results
This anchor point focuses on the skills to make good decisions and follows them up with solid steps of action. You must move out of imagining the future and take specific steps toward it if you hope to make the summit.
Law of Action
We live in a world where people are more than willing to point out what’s wrong and criticize the actions of others. We could just say those people are mean and avoid them, but there are a lot of other situations where we are likely to have negatives pointed out that we just can’t avoid. Employers will evaluate the quality of your work, police officers will point out the danger in the way you are driving (often with a ticket attached), educators will score your efforts on tests and essays, neighbors will complain that your dog barked all night and kept waking up their baby. Developing the ability to hear criticism, not react in anger and learn how to fix things or improve how you are working, driving, writing and training your puppy will set you up for great success in life. Sometimes people call this being thick-skinned. This means that I’m not easily offended by what people say and can take criticism as constructive advice and do better.