Commitment & Follow Through
Doing what you say you are going to do is more complicated than this two-letter word “do” would indicate. Most people over-commit. We want to please people, so we agree to things that we don’t end up having the time, and if we are honest, even the interest in doing. We can also have inflated views on our capacities; imagining that we have more time, energy, margin or ability than we realistically do. This section holds important skills to help you assess the way you enter into commitments and agreements, and some tools that will enable you to fortify your resolve and push through to accomplish the things that need to get done.
Through this section you will also be helped to find and use the anchor points of:
- Commitments and Choices Matter
Decisions (particularly those that lead to commitments and agreements) are often made from emotion. Salespeople rely on your tendency to make decisions with your feelings as opposed to your head. Emotion-based decisions will usually lead to over-commitment. Another thing that impacts our commitments is that most of us believe that we can combine everything we have to do, along with what we want to do and then add in the things that others expect us to do and fit it all into the limited amount of time and energy we have in a day. This anchor point helps you develop a process for using wisdom in decisions which will lead you to make commitments and enter agreements with “eyes wide open,” counting all the costs of what you are saying yes to do. It also equips you to be an advice seeker, not so that others are making decisions for you, but to accurately see all the pieces and factors that connect to your commitments.
- Keeping your agreements
It used to be hard to break agreements. There were less legal loopholes to get out of agreements and a ton more social pressure to do what you agreed to do. In our current society, we almost expect people to fake an illness, make an excuse or just not show up. We are not, however, any better off for failing to follow through with our commitments. You don’t feel better about yourself and people learn to mistrust your words and motives. There are only two ways to go when it comes to the agreements we have made with other people. One is to keep it… do the thing you have agreed to do. The other is to renegotiate. Go back to the person with whom you made the agreement, admit that you can’t do what you agreed to do and ask to extend the time frame or adjust the actions of the agreement. This anchor point leads you through the skills of making and keeping agreements along with the vital skill of renegotiation when you have said yes to something you are just unable to do.
- Grit & Resilience
Grit is the ability to maintain determination and motivation over long periods of time despite experiences with failure and adversity. Work demands, educational and athletic programs, even romantic relationships require grit because they involve day by day, ongoing commitments to tasks and disciplines. There are points through your life where you have to dig deep into your own soul and find the energy to simply keep going when all you want to do is quit. There will be points when there are no reasons or rewards around you that are encouraging you staying on your current path. It will only be your grit that will keep you moving forward. Grit takes the mindset of a marathon runner who knows that if they run their pace and keep at it mile after mile, they will finish the race and they may even win. If the goals you have for your life are valuable enough to pursue through difficulty and setbacks, the skills in this anchor point will serve you well.
- Law of Action
You really don’t know what people mean when they say that it is much easier to turn a moving car until you experience the failure of your car’s power steering. Movement is not only good for your body, it is good for your soul. The Law of Action states that actions create habits – which lead to success. You must perform the actions necessary to achieve what you are setting out to do. Unless you take specific actions that agree with your dreams, there will be absolutely no results for you to enjoy.
When you take ACTION, from the smallest thing like writing a To-Do list in the morning, you set into motion other effects that change your immediate future, and if you follow up day after day it can become a habit and the results will be huge. Effort=Results
This anchor point focuses on the skills to make good decisions and follows them up with solid steps of action. You must move out of imagining the future and take specific steps toward it if you hope to make the summit.